For many years, our therapists have helped individuals overcome a wide range of addictions, from substance abuse to compulsive behaviours. These challenges often intertwine with other mental health issues like depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
Many people will have tried to treat their addiction by managing the behaviour itself- the focus being ‘stopping’ or abstaining in some way. This can be effective for some, though exploring the reasons behind why that person has become addicted in the first place can give greater understanding for more helpful outcomes.
Renowned addiction specialist Gabor Mate, defines addiction as a “complex process that is manifested in any behaviour that a person craves, finds temporary pleasure or relief in, and therefore craves, but cannot give up despite its negative consequences”. This broad definition extends beyond substance abuse; we can be addicted to any behaviour, such as shopping, sex, gambling, work, eating.
Addictions are often an extremely common response to stress and/or trauma when we may not have adequate stress regulation skills available to us. It is an attempt to regulate a painful inner state of some kind; so, when someone experiences stress, anxiety or other heightened challenging feelings over a prolonged period of time, they may resort to using things that will provide (temporary) relief. Whether that might be substances such as alcohol, drugs or food or other unhelpful responses.
Where does addiction come from?
Often, addiction stems from our body's response to stress and trauma. When we lack healthy coping mechanisms, we may turn to substances or behaviours to temporarily alleviate emotional pain. This can lead to a cycle of addiction, where the temporary relief becomes a compulsive need.
We all hold our emotions, including emotional pain - in our bodies - much of which can be attributed to neglect, abuse and trauma during our early years. If we aren’t equipped to manage these intense feelings, we may shut down from them or disconnect. This process may continue into adulthood where we might find relief from the pain through using substances or behaviours, thus helping us avoid the feelings. Being in this continuous cycle can lead us into addiction.
The greater the pain, the greater the need to escape. Addiction, in this sense, is never the primary problem, it is instead an attempt to mask a problem.
If you would like to know more about how our counsellors in Plymouth can help with your addiction, please give us a call or email and we'd be happy to answer any questions you might have.